Romantic relationships come in many forms: monogamous, non‑monogamous, interracial, kink‑affirming, parenting partnerships, and more. What they all share is the desire for connection. When that connection feels out of reach, therapy can be a space to slow down, listen differently, and rebuild trust.
Many of the partners I work with arrive saying, “We need to improve our communication,” but aren’t sure what that really means. Often, the struggle isn’t because they don’t love each other, but rather the inability to express one's needs or fear that those needs will be perceived as “too much.”
Some common themes I hear:
One or both partners worry they’re overwhelming or “too much” for the other.
Insecurity or anxiousness rises during conflict, leaving partners unsure how to support each other.
Needs go unspoken because someone fears rejection or expects their partner to “just know.”
Survival mode takes over, where partners are so busy holding the relationship together that they can’t see where the other is coming from.
Arguments start from a place of wanting to be heard, but end with both sides feeling misunderstood.
Underneath these struggles is usually a shared longing: to feel seen, valued, and connected.
Partners who deeply want to be together and are motivated to rebuild connection.
Couples navigating parenting and wanting to find each other again.
Interracial couples working through cultural considerations with respect and curiosity.
Relationships exploring ethical non‑monogamy or alternative structures.
Partners interested in kink or BDSM, seeking safe and consensual ways to explore.
My approach is deeply attachment‑based. That means I pay attention to the relationships that have shaped each person, including family, friendships, past partners, and how those experiences show up in the present. In the first sessions, I listen and observe how communication flows, while helping create a foundation of safety and comfort. Sometimes I’ll meet individually with each partner to better understand their perspective and where they may need support in showing up authentically.
My goal isn’t to decide who’s wrong or right. Instead, I help partners turn toward one another with a deeper understanding. We explore how trauma, history, and learned behaviors influence the way each person presents themselves in conversations.
I often use Internal Family Systems (IFS) and parts work to help partners reflect on their inner worlds. This allows each person to witness themselves outside of fight‑or‑flight, and to share that awareness with their partner. When we can see our own nervous system states and trauma responses with compassion, it becomes easier to extend that same gentleness to the person we love.
Together, we’ll practice:
Naming needs and boundaries clearly.
Listening to understand, and not just to respond.
Repairing after conflict in ways that feel safe and sustainable.
Rebuilding intimacy and trust after distance.
Exploring identity, desire, and relationship structures with curiosity and care.
Couples who work with me often discover:
Improved communication: Conversations feel clearer, less reactive, and more compassionate.
Deeper connection: Partners feel more understood and more able to turn toward each other.
Confidence in navigating differences: Whether cultural, sexual, or relational, differences become opportunities for growth instead of sources of fear.
Renewed intimacy: Emotional and physical closeness feels safer and more fulfilling.
Shared language for repair: Partners learn how to reconnect after rupture without shame or blame.
What Makes My Approach Different
Ready to get started?
If you and your partner(s) are ready to explore what healing and reconnection could look like, this is your invitation. Therapy can be a place to rediscover each other, strengthen your bond, and learn new ways of showing up together.