Lyl Starr, LMFT #149628
Trauma-Informed Therapist in Sacramento, CA & Virtually within CA
Are tired of people-pleasing and putting yourself on the back burner.
Feel disconnect from your partner(s) and friends.
Are unsure of where to start when it comes to feeling better and feeling stuck in life.
Are aware of how life, relationships or trauma have impacted you but don’t know how to integrate that in a way that creates long-term shifts in your life.
Are tired of feeling shame or guilt for who you are and struggling to embrace your identity.
Wonder about how your childhood actually impacted you.
If this sounds like you and you’re wondering if a more body-brain or somatic approach is best for you, click the button below
My name is Lyl (she/her) and I’m the therapist behind Unapologetically You Therapy. I am queer, latina, a lover of dark humor, an avid reader, and always seeking ways to improve my self-care and self-compassion. As your therapist, I am deeply committed to helping you feel at ease in your skin. Most of the folks I work with share that they have great awareness as to what is or isn’t working but struggle to figure out the “what now” beyond the knowledge.
I get really excited about working with people who have walked through life wondering why things feel off or wondering why they don’t feel like themselves but also struggle to understand who they are.
I’m certified in Brainspotting.
Trained in EMDR.
I am IFS informed and love integrating parts work and inner child healing.
Bring my authentic self (and my face that speaks before my mouth does) to help normalize humanness.
If you’re looking for a trauma-informed therapist who is anything but a blank-slate, then you are in the right place! I can’t wait to meet you!
LGBTQIA+
As a queer and bisexual person, I know how important it is to find a therapist where you can walk in, accepted as authentically you!
I help my clients through exploring their identity and sexuality, building self-esteem, decreasing shame, bi-invisibility, sharing identity with your community, and identity related anxiety, depression, and trauma.
RELIGIOUS TRAUMA
For some, religion is a place we were taught to feel shame or that parts of us were not welcome, wanted, or "good."
We can heal from wounds with support and start to rebuild our outlook of ourselves and (if it feels right) your spirituality and what role (if any) it plays in your life.
PEOPLE-PLEASING
When we begin to understand our needs and how to communicate them to others, we start to build trust and safety within ourselves.
Boundaries do not have to mean cutting ties with loved ones. But rather, learning how we want others to love and care for us.
TRAUMA
Let's change the story that it was our fault, that what happened was normal, or that we were overreacting. Trauma impacts us on a deep level, we cannot simply just "get over it" and move on. The impacts will continue to show up until we are able to tend to them. Our body, nervous system, and brain all adapted to get us through it - these adaptions might look like dissociation, anxiety, depression, hyper-vigilance, etc. As we heal and thank these parts for doing their job, we can also learn how to invite them into safety.
RELATIONSHIP THERAPY
I work with couples, relationships or partnerships who have a deep desire to be together and feel like they have drifted apart. I am poly/ENM/CNM affirming and welcome all relationship types.
MAYBE YOU'VE DONE THERAPY BEFORE
Many of the folx I meet share that they’ve been to therapy before and it has been helpful, yet something still feels incomplete.
Somatic and Holistic modalities like Brainspotting, EMDR, or IFS informed(parts work) practices can help bring that deeper level of brain-body healing and connection.
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If you’ve ever found yourself saying “yes” when you really wanted to say “no,” you’re not alone. People-pleasing is something I see so often in my therapy practice. It’s not just about being kind or helpful… it’s about putting everyone else’s needs above your own, even when it leaves you drained, resentful, or invisible in your own life.