Lyl Starr, LMFT #149628
Trauma-informed, anti-racist, queer & trans-celebratory therapy for adults navigating identity, relationships, and healing.
Trauma Therapy in Sacramento, CA and Virtual Trauma Therapy in California
Maybe you’ve been told you’re “too much,” or you’ve tried to make yourself smaller, quieter, easier to love, but it still feels like no one really sees you.
I’ve been there too, and I created this space for people who are tired of people‑pleasing, weighed down by shame, or struggling to navigate cultural and family dynamics that don’t always make room for their needs. Therapy here is about helping you feel safe enough to be yourself, unapologetically.
My name is Lyl Starr (she/they/ella). I’m a queer, Latine therapist and the child of immigrant parents, and I know how deeply culture and family shape our lives. My own background as a trauma survivor informs the way I show up: with authenticity, tenderness, and a deep respect for your lived experience.
I’m trained in Brainspotting, trained in EMDR, and IFS‑informed. I love integrating parts work and inner child healing, and I always bring my authentic self (a dark humor-lover, with a face that speaks before their mouth does) into everything I do.
Most of the folks I work with already have awareness of what isn’t working, but they’re stuck on the “what now?” My role is to help you move beyond insight into embodied healing, so that you can feel more comfortable in your own skin.
If you’re looking for a trauma-informed therapist who is anything but a blank slate, then you are in the right place, and I look forward to meeting you!
Therapy with me doesn’t involve following a “formula.” Instead, we focus on what works best for you. My practice is trauma‑informed, anti‑racist, non‑pathologizing, queer and trans‑celebratory, and affirming of non‑monogamy.
Consent is central. You’ll always have a voice in the process, and we’ll adjust together if something doesn’t feel right.
I take culture and family dynamics seriously. I don’t see them as problems to erase because the truth is, they’re part of your story. Our sessions can be a space to explore how to navigate those dynamics with compassion and boundaries, while staying connected to yourself.
I work with people navigating anxiety, dissociation, PTSD, CPTSD, childhood and sexual trauma, chronic illness and grief, gender and identity exploration, ethical non‑monogamy, kink, BDSM, and first‑ or second‑generation cultural issues. These are real struggles that deserve care, and therapy can help you find new ways forward.
Here is your invitation to explore what healing could look like for you.
You’ve found a space where you can be unapologetically yourself and where your identity, culture, and experiences are truly valued and honored.
Let’s start with a consultation call, so you can get a feel for what working together might look like.
Gender expression and identity
Recovering from toxic relations
Living beyond trauma symptoms (CPTSD, PTSD)
Shame and people pleasing
Setting boundaries and identifying needs
Sexuality and self-acceptance
Culturally aware support for BIPOC issues and family dynamics
Building self-esteem and empowerment
Panic attacks and anxiety
Ready to get started?
Reach out below to schedule a Free 15-Minute consultation call to see if I am a good fit to join you on your healing journey.
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